Wendy,
I couldn't resist! Glad I made you laugh. I would love to have a huge girl laugh together one of these days!!!!!
Openminded,
So sorry to hear what a tough position you are in.
Riz,
You go girl. Very wise when you were younger!!! And so true about the JW kids. Sad. Wish I had been as wise as you when I was younger. But then again I might not have met Thinker and what a tragedy that would have been.
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Marriage
by Mr Magoo inwhen i married my jw wife i was told that marriage was a very important thing.. i have, however, later learned that:.
1) my sister-in-laws husbands jw brother got divorced because his jw wife fooled around.. 2 - 3) 2 couples were divorced after we got married (212 years ago).
one of them had only been married for a couple of years.
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Steph,
Out of your whole post one thing caught my eye. What did they do to make fun of your three year old daughters death. There is nothing funny about that, IMO.
And if they did do that, why would you want to associate with them? Payback? Something here that I am missing?
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Marriage
by Mr Magoo inwhen i married my jw wife i was told that marriage was a very important thing.. i have, however, later learned that:.
1) my sister-in-laws husbands jw brother got divorced because his jw wife fooled around.. 2 - 3) 2 couples were divorced after we got married (212 years ago).
one of them had only been married for a couple of years.
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Mr. Magoo, and all,
This is a very interesting subject. Matter of fact, Thinker and I were just talking about it on Saturday. I was going back over in my mind about all the marriages in the org. that I have known somewhat well since I was a child. Other than my parents who are very much in love, in fact best friends, I couldn't remember seeing any of my friend's parents kissing or holding hands or anything.
Essie, could have written my story. For seventeen years I was married to an abusive man who was a witness in good standing. I tried so hard to be perfect, that I drove myself to being obsessive-compusive, and had to go through drug therapy for it. I stayed with him for all those years, because I thought I had no choice. My life was truly miserable. I can remember the last seven years or so getting up and having this voice in my head repeatedly saying "I hate my life".
I decided that when and if I ever got a chance to be in a relationship again, I would definitely "test drive" the love interest. I dated a bunch of non-witness men before I met Thinker. I was getting pretty jaded about that time. I didn't just want the dating scene. I wanted the real thing. A loving, caring, comitted relationship! Thinker and I wrote letters for about ten days. We knew we loved each other before we ever met. We loved each other's soul. Nervous about looks? You betcha'. I was a nervous wreck. And I think he was even worse for different reasons, he is extremely shy. But when we met the connection was real. I met him at his house for our first date, and I never left. We just couldn't face living without each other. Fairy tale story? Maybe. Doesn't work for everyone. But I am of the mind that there is someone out there for everyone. We just have to be in the right place at the right time, really know what we want, and be open enough to recognize it when it comes our way!! "Test driving" Thinker was the smartest and best thing I have ever done in my life. It just keeps getting better. We get along wonderfully and share everything. Matter of fact, even though he has never been a JW, he is the one who found this site, and countless hours of research on JW's on his part has helped me resolve so many of my issues.
The Witness way of finding a mate? No Way!!! Bad move. Following your heart and instincts? Definitely the way to go. No guilt, no worry.
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Phenomenal Woman
by COMF inphenomenally.. phenomenal woman,.
phenomenally.. phenomenal woman,.
phenomenally.. phenomenal woman,.
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Comf,
Loved that poem. Have always wanted to read some Maya, maybe I will have the impetus now!!
Thinker makes me feel just like those lovely words!!!
Thank you for sharing it.
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Am I unwelcome here?
by Esmeralda ini've been sitting here a little while lurking about and reading posts...and.
forcing myself not to post to several threads that i know would get me.
i have a comment that i have to make though, and i hope that.
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Dear Sweet Es,
Never ever feel like you are not welcome!! You will never know how many of your posts I have read with tears streaming down my face.
One in particular that I can remember was the one about your five year old daughter and how shunning affected her. It gave me the viewpoint through a wholely (sp) different perspective! I never thought about how it would appear through a child's eyes. And did it ever have an impact on me. Children don't have all the preconcieved notions and crap the world fills their minds with, they see it very clearly in black and white and many times recognize truths that we adults have lost somewhere along the way.
There have been days when the meaness and the wrangling have bothered me tremendously. But I try to just skip over those posts and read those that enrich me.
I am a relative newcomer too, but sometimes I feel like an old-timer. And as an in-betweener let me tell you we love you and enjoy your imput immensely.
From the for what it's worth class,
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There's Another Lady In My Life.
by Englishman inhere's her picture!.
this summer i will spend a lot of my free time aboard her, even my local pub carries her name, the waverley.
now tell me, is sailing on a fine old paddler like this better than sunday afternoons at the watchtower study?.
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Ooohhhhh,
Englishman, can I come too?
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Pleased to meet you....hope you guess my name
by hybridous inhello, message board.. i've been a-lurkin here for a while.
i introduced myself to the old hourglass board right before it went down - didn't have much of a chance to say anything.. but i would like to express how much i appreciate all the contributions you all make to the discussions that go on here.
if you only knew how much your words and stories have been helping me to resolve my issues..... i guess that my hope is that i can, in some small way, relate my experiences and thoughts, and maybe that will also help someone else along the way.. once again, thank you for being here (& there).
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Welcome Hybridous,
Hope to learn more about you. This is a great place to heal and learn and share.
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JW Boyfriend is being brainwashed !
by Camay inmy boyfriend and i live together and have been for about 3 years.. he wants me to convert, after research i will not.
(i was raised bapstist) he hasnt went to the hall in two weeks, last nite he went because a "elder" called him, why did they have him in a meeting till.
11 at nite, he came home and told me he confessed and he is in trouble.
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Camay,
I was one of JW's for almost forty years. I feel for the tough spot you are in.
The only advice I can give is pretty much what has already been said. (with the exception of Humble) Personally, I see nothing wrong with living with someone in a caring comitted relationship.
But it does sound like your boyfriend has some very serious issues. Which you seem to be well aware of.
You're are correct in your conclusions from the research you have done!! Don't let any circumstance or coaxing from your boyfriend sway you from your common sense.
I would like to be able to say, support him as a friend. But, according to the JW teachings, now that he has confessed, that won't even be possible. Because if he decides to live by their rules he will have to cut off any association with you. (sexual or otherwise)
You may want to resolve yourself to this being a learning experience and try to move on.
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a part of ourselves we neglected
by rodnico inmy mother is coming to visit me next week.
i haven't seen her for over 4 years.
she thinks that somehow i am a completely different person since leaving the organization.
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When I was little, I just wanted to grow up and marry a wonderful man and have lot's of kids. I tried to do things the Socities way and it was awful.
Now I am married to a wonderful man who was never a JW. A little late for kids, but I have a great step-daughter.
I am with Comf. Living not existing. It is a wonderful feeling!!
Welcome to all the new one's.
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FREE ADVICE
by peaceloveharmony inhey people .
well, um, ya, so i'm just gonna offer some free, unsolicited adive here...... quick aside: for those of you that don't know me, here's a little background (short and sweet version)....raised a jw, baptized at 15, da'd at 17. .
here is a little plh philosophy:.
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thinkers wife
Excellent advice Harmony!!! Pretty much my philosophy too!!
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